Dealing with Bereavement
When we suffer a bereavement our thoughts, feelings and experiences can be mixed and confusing. Sometimes we can feel overwhelmed by our feelings or we may be concerned that we are not feeling much at all or feel numb. We can feel stuck and feel unable to move forward and may be unable or unwilling to talk to others about how we feel.
How we respond to a bereavement is a very individual and personal thing, so one person may react completely differently to another which can also cause confusion and lead to misunderstandings.
There is no “right” way to grieve or mourn after a bereavement and there is no set pattern or time limit. Everyone’s experience is different, and our reactions will depend on our past, our relationship with the person we have lost and the circumstances surrounding the bereavement.
Bereavement can also raise unresolved issues or painful memories from earlier in our life, even from our childhood. This can be distressing as we struggle to cope with these difficult memories and feelings. We may also have to deal with practical issues and take on new responsibilities which we had not planned for as a result of a bereavement. We may be faced with making significant decisions or changes in our life which we may not feel ready for. It all takes time and energy at a time when we are already at a low ebb and can feel too much to cope with.
How can counselling and psychotherapy help?
Bereavement counselling or therapy can help through talking to someone who is not directly involved with the situation, who has no agenda and whose feelings you don’t have to look after. It can be a relief to be able to talk openly about what you are experiencing following a bereavement – in many cases clients say it is the first time that they have been able to say certain things out loud to anyone.
Linda Lawler, West Leicester Therapist
My name is Linda Lawler and I am a UKCP accredited integrative counsellor and psychotherapist working in Leicester. I work with a broad range of clients aged 18 and above from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and occupations facing a wide variety of issues. Based in Leicester my practice is easy to get to. It’s on a main bus route from the City Centre and there is plenty of free street parking.