Dealing with Anger Issues

Anger is a normal human emotion. It lets us know that we need to take appropriate action to set boundaries or defend ourselves, other people or our rights.  However, when angry feelings are uncontrolled and acted out, damage is caused to health and relationships, work is affected, and the quality of life is eroded.  It can become a vicious cycle which can be hard to break.  

There can be many different causes and triggers for anger, past and present.  Counselling can help in working with anger in therapy.  It is important to explore your individual history and situation, to ensure the right level of support, tailored to your specific needs.

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How can counselling and psychotherapy help?

There are several aspects to working with anger and during our work together you may:

  • learn to recognise and understand the triggers for your anger;
  • learn ways to control and contain your anger in the here and now, so that you do not ‘lash out’ and cause damage to yourself or others;
  • gradually explore and understand the buttons that these triggers push for you, usually to do with past experiences, such as childhood or relationship issues;
  • “unhook” the present from the past, so you can react appropriately to what is happening in the “here and now” rather than triggering an over-reaction arising from a past situation;
  • gradually explore, understand and learn to express your feelings appropriately, so that you can negotiate to get your authentic needs and wishes met and maintain healthy relationships going forward.

It might take some time to get to the bottom of your anger issues, to change old habits and learn new ways of relating to yourself and other people. But this time is well invested if it means you can let go of the past and go on to have the healthy, fulfilling relationships everyone deserves. Feeling more in control of your life and your emotions can help make positive life choices.

Linda Lawler, West Leicester Therapist

My name is Linda Lawler and I am a UKCP accredited integrative counsellor and psychotherapist working in Leicester.  I work with a broad range of clients aged 18 and above from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and occupations facing a wide variety of issues. Based in Leicester my practice is easy to get to. It’s on a main bus route from the City Centre and there is plenty of free street parking.